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date night Archives - Sonya Kim: Now and Forever Celebrancy Services

Be playful

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As parents of wee ones know well, date nights can be very hard to come by. Hubby and I have not yet managed to go out on an evening without Bub but we do try to watch a movie at home together whenever we can. It’s an important time to chill out, have a laugh and chat about anything, especially about non-Bub related stuff, even if that seems really hard.

I’ve long been following the offerings by The School of Life. Recently I’ve come across a card game for couples called Connect. You take turns to roll the die to see what colour card to pick from and you discuss the question or statement on the card, such as ‘What I really admire about you is…’ or ’If I had known you in childhood, I might have loved to…’

It might be something you do like ‘Have a small kiss; make it last five seconds’. It may seem silly to play a game like this but playfulness is key to sustaining good relationships and curiosity about each other is also critical.

You might have to think hard about your answers and you could be surprised by your partner’s answers. You’ll probably feel really good by the end of the game. It may lead to more conversations and in my book that’s a wonderful outcome.

Barefoot date nights

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We know that wellbeing can mean good physical health, a sound mind, self esteem and having a social life. Financial wellbeing is also important as it affects your sense of security, hope for the future and what you can afford including holidays.

Along with most of Australia, I‘m a big fan of The Barefoot Investor. His weekly emails make me laugh and also teach me cautionary tales based on what’s happened or happening with real people who have money trouble. I have gifted his books to many friends and two have become debt-free in a very short time as a result!

Scott Pape’s simple but effective advice, to get couples to have a date night to talk about money, the number one thing couples argue about, is gold.

Taboo around money and the mindset we developed from a young age about money can be difficult to overcome but it’s essential to understand because it holds the key to financial freedom and happy marriage.

Home

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I was in beautiful Byron Bay earlier in the year (when we could travel) I thought about the airport being a place where we all think about ‘coming home’ and what that means for us all.

The last scene in the movie ‘Love Actually’ captures it really well. I had a truly wonderful time away from home but of course I had Bub, a big part of my home, with me and I was missing Hubby who is my home.

Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh explains that in the Vietnamese language the wife refers to her husband as her home and vice versa. It’s very sweet and it seems to confirm that old adage that ‘home is where the heart is’.

Elvis Presley knew it too when he sang ’Home is where the heart is’:

For home is where the heart is

And my heart is anywhere you are

Anywhere you are is home

Home, home, home, home

Why not have some fun with it and tell your partner, ‘welcome home Home’ or ‘I love you, my Home’ as you impersonate Elvis – lips, hips and all.

Know your love language

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As you plan your wedding, try a love language quiz together. The 5 love languages are the ways we give and receive love, which are easy to remember as the 5 Ts: (physical) Touch, Talk (words of affirmation), Token (gifts), (quality) Time and Task (acts of service).

You may already have a good idea of yours and your partner’s love languages or you may be surprised to find out. Either way, it’s another way to be on the same page in terms of concepts and to get to understand each other better. I include the questionnaire in my Celebrancy Plus+ package so that you don’t only take time together to decide on the cake for the wedding but know if cake is part of the love language in the marriage. Interested? Reach out to me and find out more.